Most of us were taught, when we were little, to "not judge a book by it's cover". In other words, we shouldn't determine the worth of something by how it looks. Certainly, I agree with this 100%. But what happens when the worth of something, oozes it's way to the outside?
Design isn't simply about making things look nice. Its much more meaningful than that. Good design takes the deep treasures inside of human hearts and interprets it into a tangible form. It takes whats precious and hidden and turns it inside-out so that we can see it with our eyes and feel it with our hands. Design affects all of us, whether we're aware of it or not.
We all know what it's like to walk into a room and it feels kind of gross. Often, its because the lighting is too harsh. Maybe the room in unorganized, cluttered, chaotic. The objects, colors, textures that we choose to surround ourselves with literally make a difference because we are natural beings that are connected to a world that we can touch and experience. Design isn't the end all be all, but it is an usher into an emotion or state of being. We want our house to look nice because we want to feel nice when we get home. We light candles because it's relaxing, warm, intimate and special.
Being human means that we have a soul. We care about music, art and literature. Animals don't paint their walls different colors. They don't craft fine dishware to serve their food. It's not just about an instinct for survival, humans are meant to thrive. This is why design matters. And this is why it especially matters in weddings.
These days, weddings are one of the few life-occasions that we still make a big deal out of. Many cultures throughout history have had rite-of-passage ceremonies for birth, coming of age, etc. People use to celebrate the coming seasons with giant feasts. Sadly, our culture has gotten a little away from formal celebrations for these life-marking times. Weddings, however, are still greatly celebrated, which I think is a good thing. It's a formal, declarative joining of two souls where witnesses gather around to affirm and rejoice this new season of life. Weddings are a time of saying 'goodbye' to one way and 'hello' to another. This amazing commitment deserves a celebration.
So lets's pop-open the champagne, put on our best clothes! Enter flowers, candles and amazing food! All of these tangible objects that we surround ourselves with acknowledge the thoughtful and intense emotions that come with deciding to get married. The thoughtful choosing of intentional objects is essentially what design is.
And that's why I'm a wedding florist in Kansas City. I meet with people who are gearing up to celebrate something huge. I listen to stories and hearts. I let myself feel what they're feeling, and from that I think about flowers that would compliment the season, the personalities. I think about floral vessel, textures and colors. I think about votives and taper candles. I think about these objects that give us feelings. I think about how those objects will serve a celebration and the people with their hearts overflowing.
And not one is the same, just as each and everyone of us is uniquely different. We all have our idiosyncrasies. And that's where all the fun is.
So lets let these joyful hearts, these delighted souls ooze out into something beautiful.