There is an idea out there that motherhood means not having time to do other big things. While there may not be as much leisure time, or extra room in the budget, I've actually found that motherhood has been shockingly motivating when it comes to doing "other big things".
Some people say that they first "felt like an adult" when they got their first, big job, or bought their first house, maybe even started their own business. For me, it was unequivocally when I had my daughter. I remember vividly the day my husband went back to work, my mother flew back to Virginia and I was left standing alone in my foyer, holding a 1 week old. The realization that "no one was coming to save me" washed over as I became acutely aware that this little, innocent life depended fully on my ability to be present and available to her. It is humbling and empowering to feel the weight of this great responsibility. While I know that I'll never do anything as worthwhile as being Millie's mom, this sense of "can-do-ness" has unexpectedly spilt over into other areas of my life. (One of which was starting a floral and design business for weddings and events here in Kansas City.)
I think this is the experience of many mothers out there; it's why you see so many awesome #mombosses rocking their own small businesses.
Here's my list of why #mombosses don't play:
We know we can do hard things.
If you can be a mom, you can probably do anything. It starts with pregnancy, and sister, we know that is not a walk in the park. The sleepless nights. The arms that grow strong from lifting carseats with ever growing babes. Child-birth, for goodness sake. Its all a heavy burden that we are privileged and thankful to carry...but boy, does it increase your capacity for challenging things. After I gave birth to my daughter, I literally thought, "NOTHING is too hard!".
We've got little eyes watching us.
It is profoundly motivating to get off your butt and work hard when you know you have little eyes watching and studying your every move. Not only do we want our children to avoid repeating our bad habits, but we also want them to have an example of what it looks like to 'dare greatly'. We don't want them to have mothers who sit passively on the side-lines. We want them to know that they can accomplish challenging things and reach great goals by taking risks and working hard. Their little eyes have disturbed us into practicing what we preach.
We watch life at a break-neck pace.
Maybe its the lightning speed in which children develop, but motherhood also causes a keen awareness of the fleetingness of life. One minute we're cheering over their ability to lift their heads, the next they're climbing up on the counters to help themselves to a snack. We can testify that life moves fast! Our time here is limited. It's kinda now or never, in a lot of ways. Life is always going to have complications, but if we keep putting off the things we want to accomplish, the sad reality is, its probably never going to happen.
Our love makes the world go 'round.
Becoming a mother is a rebirth in and of itself. A whole new area has been opened up in our hearts that we didn't know existed before. We didn't know that we could be so nurturing and fierce. There was never a need for that type of intensity before. But now that we've held our babies in our arms, we've felt the rawness of love. We've even scared ourselves with the power of our own love. It is this force that, not only enables us to care for our children, but it drives us to create a world that is nurturing and beneficial. The main power of our motivation is the love that we have for our children. And once you step back and think about it, you can see much of the goodness and beauty in the world exists because of the love of mothers.
For those of us who consider ourselves #mombosses, our work is not just about finding success and fulfillment for ourselves, though those are great things. It is about the love that we have for our children. And that love...that love is not something to play around with. #momboss